The First Date

The following is an excerpt from The WASM Dating Handbook, our new guide to navigating the modern dating world. The WASM Dating Handbook, Sexual Magnetism, and Secrets of Sensual Massage are all available for download now in our store!

Alright you’re finally ready to get out there and meet some great women. You’ve already signed up at eHarmony, Nerdpassions, or maybe Clowndating (because you really like a girl in makeup), you’ve emailed a few prospects and hey the cute brunette with the huge shoes is excited to meet you! Awesome. But wait, you just remembered you suck at dating. Now what are you supposed to do?

For a lot of guys learning how to master the first date can be challenging and maybe even a little overwhelming. Never fear, we’ve got you covered. Read on to learn how to make your first date easy, fun, and most importantly, efficient.


Whether your goal is to find a wife, a friend with benefits or even just quick shag in your van down by the river, the first thing you need to think about is the odds. Just like any sales gig, dating is a numbers game. Most of the women you meet aren’t going to fit your criteria for one reason or another. Some women will be too shy for you, some too outgoing. Some will be too high-maintenance, some not enough. Many of them won’t have enough in common with you. Their religious, political or sexual attitudes may conflict with yours. And we haven’t even mentioned whether they’re physically attractive to you.

Because of the sheer volume of potential partners that are out there, the purpose of your first date should be to quickly and inexpensively determine whether or not you the two of you are compatible. The chances of your first date becoming love and a relationship are very, very low. This means you’re going to be going on a lot of dates before you find a great partner. The faster you can sort through the available women, the faster you can find a girl who is going to make your life amazing.

Here are some ground rules to maximize your dating efficiency. You’ll find more on each of these points in The WASM Dating Handbook.

Keep it Short

You’ll quickly find out if this girl isn’t the one for you – especially if you’re asking the right questions… (click here to find the best questions to determine her value!)

Keep it Inexpensive

Because you’re going to be going on a bunch of dates, the cost factor can add up quickly if you’re not savvy. You should spend this much (or less) on your first date… (learn the perfect dollar value for cost-effective first-dates!)

Make Sure You Don’t Take Her Here

Women are hyper aware of their safety – and they should be. Not all men are good guys like you are. For her peace of mind, avoid these places on first dates… (find the right – and wrong – places for a first date!)

Choose An Interesting Venue

If you both love coffee don’t choose Starbucks for your first date. They may have good frappuccinos but the shops are all the same. Instead try these places instead… (learn this outside-the-box date location!)

Prepare These Ideas Ahead of Time

Woman want a man who is good at communication and for her the first date will be a test of your ability to do these things well… (find out what she expects of you!)

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Figure Out If She’s Into You

The truth is that not every woman is going to like you. So how do you determine which ones do and which don’t? The best way to figure out if your date is digging you is to learn these clues all females give… (learn how to read all her signals!)

Get the Dating Handbook!

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The WASM Dating Handbook is your best one-stop shop for dating success! Our Q/A style handbook answers all the most important questions you have about what to do before, during and after every date. In it you’ll learn:

  • Who should pay for any date? (This answer will save you money AND avoid all the PC bullshit)
  • How do you know if she’s interested in you? (Most guys never learn this secret)
  • When should you kiss your date? (Almost all rom-com movies get this one wrong)
  • How much $$ should you spend on your first date? (Hint: It’s WAY less than most guys think)
  • Where should you NEVER go on a first date? (If you make this mistake, you won’t get Date #2)
  • How do you get over your fear of rejection? (Arguably THE most valuable answer in the book)
  • PLUS dozens more critical questions you need answered!

If you’re ready to save hundreds of hours, thousands of dollars and countless headaches, if you want the very best tools and techniques to navigate the minefield of dating, if your goal is to successfully blow women’s minds, you need this book!

Click this link and get “The WASM Dating Handbook” now!

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Jathan is passionate about helping create a community of great men. He enjoys beautiful women, altered states and Monty Python jokes. He lives in San Diego with two cats and a lot of books. Email him anytime at
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