Matt and Jay discuss when Throwing In the Towel is a good thing, the critical value of giving up, how to use triage to prioritize your shit, Dr. Baumeister’s Cookies and Radishes experiment, the amazing truths of Rocky IV and much more!
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Throwing in the Towel
WASM Article: https://www.wearesuperiormen.com/throwing-in-the-towel/
5:00 – New Year, New You?
8:00 – Nope—New Year, Same You
10:00 – What goals/habits have YOU tried to change before and failed?
12:30 – The unpredictable things that derail our goals
14:30 – Multi-tasking vs High-speed triage and prioritization
17:00 – 911 emergency response: Same event, different priorities – depending on POV (victim, officer, dispatch center)
21:30 – Our FOCUS, our ATTENTION, is where we have the capacity to create or change something
24:30 – Key concept: YOUR WILLPOWER is FINITE and EXHAUSTIBLE
26:30 – Dr. Baumeister’s Experiment: Cookies, Radishes and Puzzle Solving
29:30 – The solution when we’re seriously overwhelmed? Often we just give up
32:00 – David Goggins used the Rocky soundtrack on repeat when he broke the Guinness World Record for Pull-Ups
33:30 – Rocky IV – How Rocky fails, refuses to throw in the towel and Apollo Creed dies
39:00 – Strategy to transform your life: Start giving up on some things
41:00 – Stephen Covey’s Four Quadrants from “7 Habits of Highly Successful People“:
- Urgent & Important: Crisis, emergencies, pressing problems
- Not Urgent & Important: Planning, prevention, relationship-building, health
- Urgent & Not Important: Some phone calls, some meetings, “popular activities”
- Not Urgent & Not Important: Most social media, escapism, junk mail, mindless TV
47:00 – Spend your time working on the Not-Urgent & Important items in your life
49:30 – Maximize your energy by giving up things that don’t serve you
51:30 – How to know your willpower is used up? Spending more than 20 minutes CHOOSING a show on Netflix
54:00 – The 8-year long remodel
57:00 – Flashlights vs Lasers = Same amount of energy, used differently
59:00 – What projects/goals can you cut from your life? Where can you throw in the towel?
63:30 – Success isn’t a battle it’s a war